Found a perfect spot to escape the afternoon sun.

“I want to taste and glory in each day, and never be afraid to experience pain; and never shut myself up in a numb core of non-feeling, or stop questioning and criticizing life and take the easy way out. To learn and think: to think and live; to live and learn: this always, with new insight, new understanding, and new love.”

— Sylvia Plath, The Unabridged Journals of Sylvia Plath (via petrichour)
“Perhaps the most widespread myth is the belief that mothers are favored by courts in custody disputes, which stopped being true decades ago. It is true that for roughly the first half of the 1900s the ‘Tender Years Doctrine’ was influential, and mothers had some advantage in gaining custody of young children. (Prior to about 1900, mothers had no rights regarding custody at all.) But in the 1970s the tide was turning back, for various reasons, and by the 1980s fathers were winning at least joint custody in a majority of the custody battles they undertook, and winning sole custody more often than mothers, a situation that remains today. And the fathers who are taking advantage of this imbalance are largely abusive ones; researchers have found that abusers are twice as likely as non-abusive men to seek custody.


Courts are highly reluctant to curtail fathers’ access to their children. As a number of court employees have said to me over the years, ‘There are so many fathers out there who abandon their children, and here I have a dad who wants to be involved; you’re telling me I should discourage him?’ As a result they tend to hold fathers to much lower standards than mothers. Supervised visitation is not often imposed, and usually gets lifted within a few months as long as the father behaves well under supervisions, as most abusive men do.”

— Lundy Bancroft in When Dad Hurts Mom: Helping Your Children Heal the Wounds of Witnessing Abuse (2004), pp. 240, 243–44 (via mikroblogolas)


The United States gives 8.5 million dollars per day in military aid to Israel so anyone who still thinks America isn’t involved “per se” can eat my ass. The financial collaboration coming from the United States is exactly what funds and allows the illegal and genocidal Israeli occupation of Palestine. 




If you like porn you are not a feminist.

I don’t care how “alternative” or “female-friendly” you think the porn you watch is.

Paying women to get naked and/or fuck in front of a camera will never, ever be feminist and calling it feminist when that’s the only thing women are valued for doing in a patriarchy is fucking idiotic.

Fun facts, feminism is about being able to do what you want without being judged. Please try again.

If feminism is about doing whatever you want and always feeling good about it, then what good is feminism? What is the point of a movement that refuses to acknowledge or talk about the unequal power structures that gave rise to the movement in the first place? What is the point of feminism if it has no collective goals or purpose? What can it accomplish if it fails to address the needs of the most vulnerable and disenfranchised women? 

I just don’t know why you pro-sex industry people are so averse to doing research, or to having some compassion for the women whose lives have been ruined by porn. Many women who have worked in the mainstream porn industry have testified about the abuse, rape, and exploitation they experienced on set, women like Tamra Toryn, Vanessa Belmond, Danielle Williams, Jan Villarubia, Mahlia Milian, Shelley Lubben, Jenni Case, Corina Taylor, Jessi Summers, and many more.

According to your logic nobody is allowed to criticise anything, ever, because some women like it. It’s really arrogant and selfish to think that feminism exists to validate every shitty choice you make. Like there are privileged women who use this idea to justify harming and exploiting less privileged women, but who cares about that, those individual privileged women get what they want and it’s mean to judge them!

Female pornographers are guilty of this, yes, even so-called “feminist” and “queer” pornographers. Crash Pad, a porn website that sex positive feminists love so much, refuses to fire performers who have committed rape and assault. If I make people feel ashamed for watching porn, good; they should feel ashamed for getting off to images of rape and sexualised violence. Just because you’re a woman doesn’t mean everything you do is free from criticism or condemnation.


By Susan Niezelski

“My soul is impatient with itself, as with a bothersome child; its restlessness keeps growing and is forever the same. Everything interests me, but nothing holds me.”

— Fernando Pessoa, The Book of Disquiet (via wordsnquotes)

Hold On, We’re Going Home, Pia Mia

“I’m meeting boys who like Charles Bukowski and they all want to do brutal things to my body. They tell me they buy a bottle of whiskey whenever they get one of his books and don’t stop reading till they’ve gone through a pack of cigarettes. They blow smoke in my face and say, “He was the outcast king of L.A. Did you know that, huh?” “Yeah, yeah, I know.” I say,“He’s great.”

A new boy gives me a worn copy of On the Road and thinks he’s being original. “We should explore the road together. Would you like that, baby?” I take a sip of my water and look away. Yes, I’d like that, I think. But he’s drunk and imagining himself sixty years earlier, in the back of a bar, sweating to the sound of live bop. Still, I prefer him to the hungry boy that devoured my shirt and said, “You have a tattoo? What’s it say?” ‘mad to live?’ What, are you angry about living? Aw, I’m just kidding, come here, let me take off that bra.”

The next boy I kiss doesn’t read. I ask him to come to a bookstore with me and he stays outside, sighing. He has no interest in words. He has no interest in me. I am thankful for him. For a few weeks, I am able to shed my habit of thinking obsessively and become a duller, rougher version of myself. I dump him when my fingers start turning imaginary pages in my sleep.

I go on a date with a boy who knows I like to write. He calls himself a fan of mine and swears he’s read every word I’ve put down. “You’ve got this voice that’s very modern, but also so classic.” I choke on my water as he says, “I read you to fall asleep.” At night, I listen to him pant metaphors and compare my mouth to the sea. One day, he stumbles across my journal and finds nothing about himself in it. “You don’t really love me, do you?” I shake my head. There is no use pretending anymore. He has read my poems about the boys I want to drown in me. His goodbye leaves my hands covers in ink. He wanted me so badly to be the sea, when all I am is a girl who writes poetry.

I try my best to become poetry. I take a bath and stain the water with black ink. I cut my hair in a motel sink. I cry for people I have never met. I start smoking cigarettes. I use words like “presumptuously” and talk about “post-modernist new wave.” I walk the streets at 4 a.m. and smile at people coming home from a rave. I wear sunglasses indoors. I carry a 500 page volume of poems wherever I go. I drink coffee instead of water. I talk about the “advantages of using film and listening to records.” But no matter how hard I try, I am not the sea. I am a sunken ship that has drowned in everyone who touched me.”

I Am Not The Sea, Lora Mathis (via lora-mathis)


Art History Meme | 6/6 Themes Or Series Or Subjects
The Birth of Venus


Chiharu Okunugi

“Lifestyle feminism ushered in the notion that there could be as many versions of feminism as there were women. Suddenly the politics was being slowly removed from feminism. And the assumption prevailed that no matter what a woman’s politics, be she conservative or liberal, she too could fit feminism into her existing lifestyle. Obviously this way of thinking has made feminism more acceptable because its underlying assumption is that women can be feminists without fundamentally challenging and changing themselves or the culture.”

— bell hooks, Feminism is for Everybody (via mahakavi)


Do you ever think about all of the really nice drunk girls you’ve met in bathrooms and wonder how they are doing? I miss you all.


Hope Gangloff